Hate networking? Here are some tips

Ask well-formed questions

Display a sincere interest in others. Inquiry into others’ interests and backgrounds is a tremendous networking skill. People love when others display an interest in them, and introverts don’t need to drum up ideas for typical, dull small talk. It is a brilliant networking strategy for introverts.

Do less

Prioritize your time, manage your energy. Shining bright at one event is smarter than straggling into every networking opportunity crossing your path. Grant yourself mini-recharge breaks at programs. Head outside for a breather, step away to refresh, decompress on a brisk walk, or check messages. Let go of what you should do; free yourself up to what appeals. You will be more appealing to others in the process.

Volunteer

Arrange in advance to help out. Many networking-haters are most comfortable when in a designated, structured role. Working the event provides you with a specific reason to engage with others, rather than poking around for small talk.

Get to events early

It is better to enter a room with a few people than one with a crowd packed close together. Gatherings are cozier near the beginning and participants more accessible.

Follow up

If you aren’t following up, you aren’t networking. The time you invest in networking is wasted without follow-up. Write a personal note within 48 hours, while you still remember each other. Be useful - include an article link, provide relevant information, or connect your new acquaintance with a valuable resource. Want to really stand out? Mail a handwritten note. Because introverts are frequently gifted writers, this is an opportunity to shine.

Network on your own terms

As a previous networking-hater myself, I know you can exceed your wildest networking expectations while having a great time in the process.

Q: You introduce a new term in your book–centrovert. What exactly is a centrovert?

Until now, we have been limited to two descriptors on the introvert-extrovert temperament continuum. This dichotomy neglects slight introverts and slight extroverts. Centroverts can relate nearly equally to both extremes of the spectrum. The term centrovert reminds us that personality types have infinite variations and few of us are on the extreme end. More specifically, it provides centroverts with a better understanding of their own strengths. Those in the middle can be made to think they are somehow weak or wishy-washy.